We are created as sexual beings at the deepest level of our psyche. Sexual self-esteem is very important, because it affects how you think, act and even how you relate to other people. It allows you to live life to your potential. Low self-esteem means poor confidence and that also causes negative thoughts which mean that you are likely to give up easily rather than face challenges. In addition, it has a direct bearing on your happiness and well-being.
Sexuality is a part of who you are as a person. It is how you feel about your body, whether you feel masculine or feminine or somewhere in between – the way you dress, how you move, how you speak, the way you act and feel about other people, who you are attracted to and fall in love with, and so much more. Whether you’re on your own or sexually involved with someone else, you’re still a sexual person.
Everyone has their own way of expressing their sexuality to others and we each also have our own way of feeling or experiencing it for ourselves. Your sexuality has been and will be a part of you for your entire life. How you express it will change depending on your age and stage of life.
Infidelity refers to a fracture within a committed partnership, a partnership based on trust and mutuality. Any relationship outside of the committed partnership can be considered infidelity…. any investment of time, money, energy, etc. that is taken away from the committed partnership. Beyond the damage to the committed partnership, Infidelity may also involve implications of cultural, religious and legal aspects. Sexual infidelity is rarely about sex! Typically, what is sought after is something missing in their own life – a sense of self-worth, relational issues, self-identity, self-care, and an understanding of moderation.
Types of Infidelity
Secret money: incurring debt that partner or significant other is unaware of, and yet responsible for. Hiding funds from your partner or significant other.
Personal Information: sharing intimate details with someone outside of a committed relationship, in the attempt to gain outside support.
Online: typically an additional element of intimate information and/or visual stimulation involved.
Pornography: a) addictive, b) escalates requiring more time away from partner or significant other, c) desensitization in seeing people as object rather than individual, d) acting out sexually to replay the visual stimulus. (Dr. Victor Cline’s four progressive steps to porn addiction).
Physical Sexual Infidelity
Affairs: an infidelity that denotes an affectionate relationship that may or may not include a sexual relationship.
Sexual Liaisons: an interpersonal interaction entered into expressly for the purpose of sexual satisfaction; it can be for the satisfaction of one or both parties.
Sexual infidelity is rarely about sex!
Typically, what is sought after is something missing in their own life – a sense of self-worth, relational issues, self-identity, self-care, and an understanding of moderation.
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